Let's Talk About It
There is too much magic, connection, passion, aliveness and possibility available in your relationships to spend one more day not feeling confident, competent and inspired by your ability to communicate clearly and navigate conflict without drama.
Let's get into it.
WHEN YOU HAVE THE ESSENTIAL COMMUNICATION AND CONFLICT SKILLS IN YOUR BACK POCKET...
YOU CAN CREATE ANY RELATIONAL DREAM IN YOUR HEART AND BUILD A LIFE YOU ARE TRULY INSPIRED AND FULFILLED BY!
In this multiple part series you'll be guided through the foundational pillars all masterful communicators embody and explore the practices to get these skills deep in your bones.
These skills for conflict and communication are essential for ALL of your relationships romantic or not.
If you're done wasting time going round and round with your communication, holding back your needs or drained from all the dramatic conflict in your relationships this program is for you.
Welcome To
LET'S TALK ABOUT IT
A live multiple part series focused on healthy communication + conscious conflict skills for Hot Healthy and Happy Relationships.
Together we'll be diving into the art of conscious communication and developing the skills to navigate conflict in a relational way aka it’s not going to fuck your relationship every time you disagree, fight or don't see eye to eye.
HERE'S WHAT WE'RE GETTING INTO:
Session 1: The Art of Collaboration.
Session 2: The Art of Listening + Asking Questions.
Session 3: The Art of Co-Creating in Conflict.
Session 4: The Art of Repair.
Session 5: The Art of Relational Agreements
BONUS Embodied Alchemy Classes: A guided alchemical movement class designed to help clear the stuck energy and emotions that interfere with clear, effective communication + conflict resolution. This is a movement class designed to reset your system, regulate your nervous system, get out of your head and into your body so you can communicate powerfully.
BONUS WORKSHOP: Let's Talk About Sex- Navigating the essential conversations and conflicts that can arise in the bedroom.
ALL HEALTHY, HAPPY AND HOT RELATIONSHIPS HAVE ONE THING IN COMMON:
Communication skills are top tier and conflict is seen and navigated in a way that deepens connection, opens understanding and turns up the heat on the spicy intimacy.
And these skills aren't just for romantic relationships. All healthy relationships embody the capacity for communication and conflict in a way that enriches the connection.
Because let's be honest speaking up and asking for what you want is a really important.
How else are you going to co-create magic together if your needs aren’t being talked about, tended to and welcomed in?
Speaking up from a place of courage, confidence and competence is the real relational gold, whether you’re speaking up about a need, boundary or desire, or your speaking up to say no, or you’re speaking up to create more magic, intimacy and connection- the more comfortable you feel in communicating, the more room for possibility you create.
And that’s what this is all about isn’t it?
The creation of possibility.
Bringing the relational dreams you hold in your heart to life.
Being so free in your self-expression that you are able to bring up the tough stuff without losing connection to yourself or the other person.
Even in times of conflict possibility is what we’re after. We’re looking for a new way of doing things together, a new way through, a new way of COLLABORATING.
When people come together in relationship (romantic or platonic) two very different worlds are colliding.
No two people have the same life experience, we’ve all be conditioned by our environments and created adaptive strategies to survive in these environments.
Coming together inevitably means bumping up into the places where your experiences don’t totally mesh, where you have opposing needs, you have different desires, you have different ways of interpreting the reality unfolding.
So much of conflict is about taking the battle gear off and getting intimate.
Intimate with our patterns.
Intimate with our conditioning.
Intimate with our needs, desires and the seeds of possibility that we hold.
Most people just keep hammering on the problem, from a righteous position of shame, blame, make-wrong or judgement of the other.
So no wonder for the majority of couples and interpersonal relationships conflict is something they try to avoid.
Going round and round the shame, blame, make-wrong, judgement un-merry-go-round is a drain to our creative life-force.
It sucks.
And for most people in these situations it doesn’t lead to deeper understanding, connection and true relational repair.
For repair to be possible you have to fight fair.
You have to know how to be a collaborator first.
You have to be willing to put yourself in their shoes.
See things from a different perspective.
And most importantly navigate it like you love yourself and like you care about the other person.
You also have to know how to be an incredible collaborator.
Which is a tall order in a world that values hyper individualism.
But to be an excellent communicator and conflict navigator the skill of true relational collaboration is a MUST.
As a relational teacher who is also a songwriter,
collaboration, communication and conflict navigation are some of my strongest skillsets.
Without these skills I can’t create rapport and relational safety in my relationships and without these skills I can’t create the conditions for optimal creativity in the songwriting room.
Which is why I am thrilled to be bringing this expertise to you in a mini series format.
I’ve been collaborating musically and in songwriting rooms for nearly 20 years. I’ve been a relational teacher in this industry for 14 years.
I've had a lot of time on the court honing these skills.
And these are skills that to this day continue to open up doors of incredible opportunity and possibility both personally and professionally.
You get to have this too, if you're willing to get on the court,
learn the skills and practice.
Because this work isn’t about perfection,
it's about practice.
It’s about the willingness to get on the court of your life and build new communication muscles, practice new conflict skills.
Without the willingness to practice these areas never improve.
Mastery in any area is developed through both the devotion, practice and riding the momentum that comes from the communication + conflict wins
AND
The insight, learning and adjusting that comes when we don’t totally hit the target in these areas.
Both are equally important experiences.
I know you are here to do great things with your life, that you are here to LOVE BIG and create a life that you feel so inspired, lit up and fulfilled by.
Your relationships (romantic and platonic) play a HUGE role in this creation.
So if you're ready for EPIC LOVE and HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS that SUPPORT your dreams, co-create magic with you and allow you to level up into the person you are here to become... this series is for you.
WHAT'S INCLUDED:
• 10 hrs of LIVE Instruction
In this multi-session live series you’ll learn the skills for healthy communication, conscious conflict navigation that can be applied to all of your relationships, romantic or not. Includes lifetime access to the recordings and a community space for digestion, reflection and ongoing connection with other people on this creatively conscious path. Each session is scheduled for 2hrs (45-60 minutes teaching)
• Integration Practice
30-45 minutes of each session we’ll dive into a live practice session. These are designed to support you in getting clear, practice the skill we are focused on and get that embodied experience right into your bones. Most people will learn something in a class and never apply it. We don’t roll like that in my containers. I’m big on transformation and transformation doesn’t happen unless we get on the court and move differently. These practice sessions are designed to support you in moving different right away so there is no room for that sneaky self-sabotage to take you out before you even get started.
• Q/A Sessions
At the end of each teaching segment we will spend about 30 minutes diving into your specific questions and helping you get unstuck.
•Bonus Embodied Alchemy Sessions
Kelsey’s signature embodiment method Embodied Alchemy will be used to support you in clearing out stuck energy in your body that is impacting your communication and capacity for conflict resolution. These will be a combination of live classes and replay sessions. We will primarily focus on the alchemy of emotions and stuck energy in the body. These are wonderful classes to alchemize anxiety, fear, overthinking, or to re-sensitize the body if you’re in a state of functional freeze. They are designed to, over time and consistent practice, expand your somatic and nervous system capacity and regulation.
• Private Community Space
This program includes access to a private community space on my Mighty Network that allows you to connect with others in the program, connect with Kelsey and receive support with this process as you navigate.
All of your course call replays will be hosted in this space as well as reflection questions, journal prompts and scripts for communication + conflict (these scripts are based off of real time questions from people in the course). You will have lifetime access.
• Bonus Let’s Talk About Sex Workshop
In February 2024 we’ll dive into the specifics of communication and conflict in the bedroom so you can create that steamy, sexy, fulfilling sex life you dream about.
HERE'S WHAT WE'RE DIVING INTO:
Session 1: The Art of Collaboration
December 6th 12pm PST, 3pm EST, 8pm GMT
•The role embodiment plays in collaboration.
• Honesty, transparency and leading with openness.
• Finding the GOLDEN THREAD
• Speaking up in ways that build connection not break it.
Session 2: The Art of Listening + Asking Questions
December 9th 10am PST, 1pm EST, 6pm GMT
• The skills and ways of being every effective listener embodies + how to begin embodying these qualities immediately.
• Overcoming the mental noise that blocks reception and presence.
• How to ask questions in a way that opens possibility vs shuts people down.
• Why people don't always tell the truth when asked questions and how to create the conditions for truth and honesty to be welcomed in your connection
• The impact tone and intentional word selection have on the relational outcome and how to be masterful in this area to open space for true intimacy, honesty, understanding and openness.
Session 3: The Art of Co-Creating in Conflict
December 13th 12pm PST, 3pm EST, 8pm GMT
•Understanding your needs and what is underneath your upset.
• Listening for truth vs projecting + catastrocizing.
• Staying connected in your body and staying with sensation.
• How to reconnect when you get disregulated (both by yourself and with the other).
• Re-estabilishing rapport and good faith fighting.
• Possibility + Solution Orientation vs Problem + Enemy Orientation
Session 4: The Art of Repair
December 16th 12pm PST, 3pm EST, 8pm GMT
• How to come back to connection when you don't fight fair.
• The anatomy and embodiment of a relational apology.
• How to receive an apology.
• Dropping the shame, blame, make-wrong and holding your relationship/person hostage to their mistakes.
• How to truly let things go- aka how to properly integrate the experience, complete it and move forward.
Session 5: The Art of Relational Agreements
January 28th, 10am PST, 1pm EST, 6pm GMT
•Why relational agreements matter and why so many people avoid making them.
• The role honesty plays in making agreements that are true that you can keep.
•The basic relational agreements for friendship + family + clients.
• Basic relational agreements for romantic relationship.
• The art of creating the proper conditions for a powerful and empowering experience.
• How to navigate it when you fall out of alignment with your relational agreements.
IS THIS COMMUNICATION + CONFLICT SERIES WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR?
This series is DEFINITELY for you if:
• You struggle to communicate clearly but have a deep desire to be understood and do this better.
• You’re ready to be in a relationship but have a hard time having the hard conversations around commitment, (Ex "What are we?", "Where is this going?" or clarifying the terms of the agreement).
• You want to ask for the promotion, raise, or new position but avoid it because you’re afraid of fucking it up or getting rejected.
• You want to leave a relationship but don’t because you’re afraid of hurting the other person or not saying the right thing.
• You want to tell your partner your needs but they tend to take it so personally and escalate that you back down and allow the chronic unmet needs to fester and resentment grow- and you’re ready to transform this pattern.
• You have some unhelpful coping mechanisms when it comes to conflict (stonewalling, shutting down, going cold, assuming negative intent, emotionally escalating/getting really dramatic, criticism, contempt, being defensive, anxiously pulling for/demanding answers, inability to sit in discomfort, neglect, numbing out, overworking ect) that you wish to shift.
• You want to be an effective communicator but you get really overwhelmed and tend to fall back into old communication patterns when you’re stressed or anxious.
• You have needs in your relationships that you aren’t advocating for that are impacting your mental health, emotional availability or overall fulfillment in the connection.
• You shut down in conflict or avoid it all together (HELLO PEACEMAKERS, PEOPLE PLEASERS AND ENNEAGRAM 2'S + 9's 😉) and know this isn’t workable but don’t know what else to do or how to do it.
• You or your partner engage in alot of shame, blame, make-wrong or judgement when you navigate conflict or disagree- which leads to a rupture of connection, trust and intimacy.
• You want to become masterful in your collaboration skills so you can powerfully co-create the relational dream in your heart.
• You want to become masterful in your collaboration skills so you can powerfully co-create the community connections you desire.
• You want to become masterful in your collaboration skills so you can powerfully co-create and go for the dreams in your heart.
•You feel awko-taco when it comes to talking about sex, money or any other high sensation topic.
• You want to have the communication and conflict skills on lock to navigate the holidays and not get so triggered in the pressure cooker of family, holidays and the intensity of the season (aka you want to be able to set boundaries for your self-care and mental health, de-escilate situations that usually turn into wrecking ball holiday moments, how to disarm people who try to bait you into drama and conflict, how to deal with people who don’t know how to communicate or behave like a healthy emotional adult).
*If even ONE of these spoke to you, you're in the right place and I'm so excited to explore this world with you.*
Meet Your Mentor
As a 14 year relational mentor I've guided thousands of people through the world of healthy communication and conflict.
As a songwriter who works with international artists, producers and songwriters across the globe- my relational, communication and conflict resolution skills MUST be on LOCK.
It's the difference between getting the song done, creating long-term relationships in the indusrty and building a reputation that speaks for itself.
I was recently in Spain on a songwriting retreat and one of the songwriters pulled me aside at the end and said:
"In all my years doing this I have never seen someone receive feedback as gracefully as you. Working with you was the absolute highlight of this retreat. You are so easy to connect with, you listen and respect everyone's ideas and your collaboration skills are unlike anything I've ever seen (he's a songwriter and movie producer who has been in the entertainment industry for over 25years). If there was one person I would want to keep working with after this, it's you."
It was one of the most beautiful compliments I have ever received.
And it reinforced just how integrated and embodied these skills have become.
To leave that type of impact on people is what I aim for and if I've been able to develop these skills so can you.
But before we really get into it, let me give you a glimpse into how I used to be, because let's be real, I haven't always been this masterful...
I used to be a total hot headed snap show.
I would stonewall.
I would do the power over move by withholding love and affection.
I would run away.
I would use criticism, contempt to try to manipulate behaviour change.
I would get SO defensive if someone was upset with me and twist and turn it on them.
I was a mess.
I was a disaster.
I had no clue how to identify my needs never mind speak up for them.
And when I tried to get my needs met I would end up being super aggressive and domineering or I would swing to the other side (I like getting all the experiences in my system 🤣) and become passive and complacent.
Not exactly relational. Not exactly collaborative.
I had no clue how to listen without reacting.
I had zero capacity to hold discomfort.
I equated conflict with loss of connection and thought it was a sign of misalignment (*spoiler alert all relationships have conflict, you're not getting out of that 😝).
I was so threatened by difference I needed to dominate so that I felt safe and ok.
I was terrified of saying the wrong thing so I would say what I thought would get me what I wanted or say what they wanted to hear.
I developed a front of being untouchable, volatile and erratic so no one dared to get too close or challenge me.
But it's through the absolute DUMPSTER FIRE MESS of my relational past that I was able to learn and create differently.
The contrast of these experiences gave me access to the template that would shape the second half of my relational life.
One that is filled with consideration, attunement, possibility, healthy communication, speaking up, voicing my needs, communicating disappointment, holding disappointment, expanding capacity for rejection, respecting difference, communicating with an open and receptive energy and building relationships that I am so FUCKING PROUD OF.
If this is what you want for yourself, I want it for you too and I am deeply committed to helping you get there.
Ready to jump?
Let's go my babes! xx
JOIN ME FOR
LET'S TALK ABOUT IT
The four part series for epic love and healthy communication and conflict skills that deepen intimacy, connection and open the gates of possibility wide open.
WHAT IF I JUST WANT TO PURCHASE ONE OF THE SESSIONS?
GOOD NEWS FOR YOU, IF YOU'RE NOT QUITE READY TO DIVE ALL THE WAY IN OR WANT TO FOCUS ON THE UPCOMING CLASS ONLY... WE GOT YOU.
THOSE OPTIONS ARE BELOW.
*All previous class sessions will be available for purchase by Jan 31st*